Reminding Yourself You’re Doing Your Best
A gentle weekly note from Darkness and Recovery on disconnection, awareness, and small steps forward.
Even in recovery, it’s easy to feel like you’re falling short. Days when tasks feel heavier, emotions feel unpredictable, or small goals aren’t met can make you judge yourself harshly. Trauma can intensify these feelings, creating an internal voice that says, “I should be doing more”, even when you’re already doing your best.
This experience is common for trauma survivors, especially those navigating mental health recovery. It doesn’t mean you’re failing; it often reflects a nervous system that’s still learning safety and balance.
Understanding Self-Compassion in Recovery
Research shows that self-compassion, the ability to treat yourself with kindness rather than criticism, supports regulation of the nervous system and fosters long-term recovery. Trauma survivors who practice self-compassion often notice reduced anxiety, better emotional awareness, and more sustainable engagement in daily life.
This is not about lowering standards or avoiding responsibility. It’s about acknowledging effort, noticing limits, and responding with care, which strengthens resilience and supports healing.
A Practice to Try This Week
Try pausing once or twice a day to gently say to yourself:
“I am doing the best I can right now.”
You might notice physical sensations, emotions, or thoughts that arise with this phrase. You don’t need to change anything; simply observe and allow the acknowledgment to land.
Other ways to practice self-compassion:
Gently notice moments when you’re critical of yourself. Pause and reframe kindly.
Keep a short journal noting small efforts or choices you made that week.
Remind yourself that recovery is nonlinear and that effort itself is progress.
Even brief, consistent reminders like this help build emotional awareness, nervous system regulation, and a more supportive internal environment for mental health recovery.
A Note on Support
While this blog is reflective and research-informed, it is not a substitute for professional mental health care. If you are experiencing a crisis or need support, please contact a qualified mental health professional or your local services. Your well-being is the priority, and professional guidance is an essential part of any recovery journey.
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